My Kitchen, My Battleground

Look, I’m gonna be honest with you. My kitchen was a disaster. Not like, ‘oh, I’ll tidy it up later’ kinda disaster. More like, ‘I can’t find the toaster because it’s buried under a pile of unopened mail and takeout menus’ disaster. It got so bad that last Tuesday, my friend Clara came over, took one look, and said, ‘Liz, this isn’t just a mess. It’s a lifestyle choice. A bad one.’

And she was right. I mean, I’m not proud of it, but it’s true. I’ve always been a collector. Of things, of experiences, of… well, clutter. But something had to change. So, I did what any self-respecting millennial would do—I went down a rabbit hole of decluttering trends, Marie Kondo’d my socks, and even tried that ev dekorasyon fikirleri trend 2026 thing (which, honestly, was more confusing than helpful).

Why Is This So Hard?

Let me tell you, decluttering is not for the faint of heart. It’s emotional labor, plain and simple. I’m talking about the time I spent 36 hours trying to decide whether to keep a half-used tube of mascara from 2018. I mean, what if I need it? What if I run out and the exact shade gets discontinued? It’s ridiculous, right?

But here’s the thing—I’m not alone. I talked to a colleague named Dave about this, and he told me, ‘I once spent an entire weekend trying to organize my spice rack. By the end of it, I had a spreadsheet categorizing each spice by cuisine, expiration date, and how often I actually use it.’ I asked him if it was worth it. He said, ‘Honestly? No. But it felt good at the time.’

Which… yeah. Fair enough.

The Great Purge of 2023

So, about three months ago, I decided to take the bull by the horns. I started small—my closet. I figured if I could tackle that, I could tackle anything. I mean, I had clothes in there from high school. High school! Let’s call him Marcus, my best friend from back then, and he laughed when I told him. ‘You’re telling me you still have that denim jacket with the bedazzled shoulders?’ he said. ‘Liz, that’s a crime against fashion.’

But it’s not just about the physical stuff. It’s about the mental clutter too. The guilt, the regret, the ‘what ifs.’ I had a whole drawer dedicated to receipts and old notes. Why? I don’t know. Maybe I thought I’d need them someday. Spoiler alert: I didn’t.

I started asking myself some tough questions. Do I need this? Do I use this? Does this bring me joy? (Thanks, Marie.) And you know what? Most of the time, the answer was no. So, I started tossing. And it felt amazing.

The Unexpected Benefits

Now, I’m not gonna lie—it wasn’t all sunshine and rainbows. There were moments of doubt, moments of ‘oh god, what have I done.’ But the benefits? They were huge. For one, I could actually find my keys. I mean, that’s a game-changer right there. But more than that, it was the mental space. The clarity. The sense of accomplishment.

And it’s not just me. I talked to a friend named Sarah, who’s a bit of a minimalist guru. She told me, ‘Decluttering is like a mental detox. You get rid of the physical stuff, and suddenly, your mind feels lighter too.’ She’s right. It’s like a weight has been lifted.

The Tangent: My Plant Obsession

Now, let me digress for a second. You know what’s not clutter? Plants. I’m serious. I’ve turned into one of those people who have plants everywhere. On the windowsill, the coffee table, even the bathroom. And you know what? It’s great. They’re living things, and they bring life to my space. Plus, they’re a lot easier to take care of than I thought. I mean, I killed a cactus once, but that’s a story for another time.

But here’s the thing about plants—they’re a committment. You can’t just ignore them and hope for the best. You gotta water them, talk to them (don’t judge), and make sure they’re getting enough light. It’s a lot like a relationship, honestly. And speaking of relationships…

The People Factor

Decluttering isn’t just about stuff. It’s about people too. I realized I was holding onto relationships that were past their expiration date. Not in a mean way, but in a ‘we’ve grown apart and it’s time to let go’ way. It’s hard, you know? Saying goodbye to people who were once important to you. But it’s necessary.

I had a conversation with my mom about this. She’s the queen of holding onto things ‘just in case.’ She told me, ‘Liz, you’re too young to be talking about letting go of people.’ And I get it. But sometimes, you gotta let go to make room for new things. New experiences, new friendships, new opportunities.

The Final Countdown

So, where am I now? Well, my kitchen is still a work in progress. But it’s better. A lot better. I can find my toaster now, and that’s a win in my book. As for the rest of my life? I’m taking it one step at a time. Decluttering isn’t a one-and-done deal. It’s a process. A journey. And it’s okay if it’s messy. It’s okay if it’s not perfect.

Because, honestly, life’s too short to be buried under a pile of clutter. Both physical and mental. So, here’s to letting go. To making room for what truly matters. To living a little lighter.


About the Author: Liz Thompson is a lifestyle writer and self-proclaimed clutter warrior. When she’s not wrestling with her kitchen or talking to her plants, she can be found exploring London’s best coffee shops or binge-watching reality TV. She believes in the power of a good declutter and the importance of a well-placed throw pillow.

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